SELF-HARM

What you need to know.

What is self-harm?

The term self-harm is used to describe what people do when they deliberately hurt or injure themselves, often as a way to cope with painful or intensely difficult feelings. Self-harm can include a range of self-injurious behaviours like cutting, burning or punching the body.

There are many reasons why young people harm themselves and for some young people it may be difficult to put the reasons into words. These actions may provide temporary relief but they do not help to solve the problem underlying your distress.

Sometimes it can feel like life is just too hard and problems can seem overwhelming. Thoughts of self-harm are not uncommon but there are other things that you can do to cope with really distressing times. It’s important to sort out the underlying problem – whether it is anxiety, depression or something else. If you are hurting yourself or thinking about suicide you need to let someone know, and get some help to cope.

Download our information leaflet on self-harm to find ways to cope and get support.
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Self-harm in young people

Some young people have described self-harm as a way to:

• express something that is hard to put into words
• turn invisible thoughts or feelings into something visible
• change emotional pain into physical pain
• reduce overwhelming emotional feelings or thoughts
• have a sense of being in control
• escape traumatic memories
• have something in life that they can rely on
• punish themselves for their feelings and experiences
• stop feeling numb, disconnected or dissociated
• create a reason to physically care for themselves
• express suicidal feelings and thoughts without taking their own life.

After self-harming you may feel a short-term sense of release, but the cause of your distress is unlikely to have gone away. Self-harm can also bring up very difficult emotions and could make you feel worse.

How can I get help?

It is possible to learn to manage really intense feelings in ways that do not cause harm, and many of these alternatives can also offer you relief in the longer term. It can be hard, and at times confronting to break free from your self-harming habits, but just take it one step at a time.

Your first step is to decide that you want things to be different; that you want a longer term solution to how you cope. Some people can begin this process on their own but many need the support of their friends and family.

Giving up self-harm and trying new ways to cope takes time and patience but you will begin to see that you don’t have to hurt yourself to feel better; there are other ways.

For more information on how you can get help with self-harm, download our information leaflet.
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Useful support

www.olli.chat
Richmond’s free, 24/7 webchat offering emotional support and practical guidance.
www.kellimni.com
A free, 24/7 support service managed by SOS Malta.
Aġenzija Żgħażagħ
Provides youths with a safe space to express views, needs and concern.
Youth in Focus Service
Provides social work intervention to adolescents and young persons.

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